Unity Glass Wedding Ceremony

Here is a new Unity celebration idea for today’s Bride & Groom.

 

So how does this whole concept work?

  1. You select what you’d ultimately like to have made from your unity ceremony — a glass sculpture, vase, or bowl Our favorite is the scalloped infinity bowl
  2. Select the colors you want — they recommend at least three, but you can choose eight or more. If you are using this for your blended family unity ceremony you’ll either choose one color for all the children or one color for each child.
  3. Unity in Glass will ship the glass crystals to you in individual packets
  4. You combine the crystals in whatever way makes sense for you and your ceremony, most likely sand ceremony-style
  5. You’ll ship the newly mixed glass crystal color mixture back to the artists at Unity in Glass so they can work their creative mojo with your custom ceremony goodies
  6. Unlike a candle or sand, Unity in Glass can also make additional items (ornaments, paperweights, other items you can pull from your imagination) from the remaining glass crystals for gifts to parents, children, or close friends

 

Money and Finances Before the Wedding

Understanding each others’ views about money and investing

Unless you and your bride or groom have spent a significant amount of time discussing how you plan
to handle finances after the honeymoon, you may be setting yourselves up for a rough go — at
least in the beginning and maybe for your entire time together.
Studies have shown that money is a frequent topic of arguments in many marriages.
One of the reasons may be that couples don’t spend enough time talking about money
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Marriage is a many-splendored thing, but when you begin to peel away the layers, one important thing you find is a business arrangement — that’s just one reason why it’s called a marriage “contract.” And as with any business arrangement, in a marriage you have money flowing in and money flowing out. As long as the inflow exceeds the outflow, the arrangement usually works. But a marriage isn’t a typical business —there’s an emotional aspect to everything, including the couple’s finances.To help get the discussion started, here are some issues couples should address before walking down the aisle. I Tie The Knots offers you the following insight.
Combining accounts
Many engaged individuals — especially those who are older — already have their
own savings, checking and brokerage accounts. The question is whether to combine
everything into joint accounts or keep them separate. Having separate accounts lets
each individual feel independent, knowing that he or she can tap his or her finances
whenever the need arises. On the other hand, joining accounts helps unite the couple’s
goals and can help create a more effective investment program.
One solution to consider: Keep separate accounts and have a joint account that both
individuals contribute to for covering household expenses.
Housing
Because each individual may already own a home, older couples often face issues glasses
with housing, including:
• Will the couple live in one spouse’s home, or sell both homes and purchase a
new one together?
• What will be the likely tax consequences of selling — especially if the sale will
result in substantial capital gains?
Financial goals
Prospective spouses need to talk about financial goals and priorities. Do they want to dine out often, or eat in and save? How much do they want to spend on traveling, buying and decorating a home, leasing a car, etc.?

It’s important to set aside money for emergency expenses or in case of sickness or disability. Experts recommend saving three to six months’ living expenses, and in somecases, even more. For example, if only one spouse is a wage earner,   a larger cushion maybe a good idea. (It’s also important to address the need for disability insurance.)
As a couple, assess your current life insurance coverage and how it may need to change.
Depending on whether you are just starting out, or combining a household that already
includes children, you should answer the question: how much life insurance do we
need? As your family grows, you may need to revisit this question multiple times
through the coming years.

Finally, consider how your combined finances affect the long-term financial goals, risk
tolerance and other investment objectives you want to achieve together. Work with
a Financial Advisor to create or update an Envision® profile so you can answer the
question: “how are we doing?”

Budgeting
Some say that the key to financial success is to spend what you have after saving, rather
than saving what’s left after spending. Many couples find themselves in the latter
position because they lack a budget to control their expenses, often leaving them with
nothing to save. It’s usually better for a couple to sit down and list their monthly income
and expenses. Then it becomes a matter of determining how they will control expenses
so they can set money aside to help achieve their goals.
For example, a couple may want to purchase a home within a few years. If so, they can
create a “fund” that they contribute to so they can accumulate a sizable down payment,
which will help reduce the size of their mortgage and, in turn, their monthly payments.

Debt
Debt can be a touchy subject. Some people are raised to never borrow money unless
it’s absolutely necessary. Others are taught that it is acceptable to take out a loan — even
if it’s for a luxury item. Reconciling these positions in a marriage can be challenging.
It’s usually a good idea for couples to discuss their attitudes toward borrowing in an
attempt to reach a compromise they both can live with.
In addition, it’s important to know before the wedding what, if any, debts each spouse
is bringing to the marriage. If there is debt, the couple must decide whether to combine
it or to keep separate credit histories and records. Many advisors recommend that each
individual retain his or her own credit cards and credit history. Doing so helps ensure
financial independence and provides greater flexibility if either spouse finds himself
or herself alone at some point in the future. Also, if one spouse has a poor credit history,
it may be advisable not to commingle debt in order to retain the other spouse’s better
credit rating.

Name change
The couple should discuss whether the bride will use a different last name after
the wedding. If the bride decides to change her last name, she should notify both her
employer and the Social Security Administration.

There will be an instruction sheet in marriage license materials to assist you.

If you have further questions, ask I Tie The Knots for guidance.

For information on how to inform the Social Security Administration, go to ssa.gov.

Prenupital Agreement
Discussing a prenuptial (also known as premarital) agreement can be one of the
more difficult topics for a couple to address. It suggests the possibility that the
marriage may not last, which is not pleasant to contemplate when planning a wedding.
But from a different perspective, a “prenup” may actually boost each individual’s sense
of independence while protecting the wealth each brings to the relationship. If children
from a previous marriage are involved, a prenuptial agreement may be an appropriate
means to provide long-term security for the entire family.
It’s better to bring up the idea of having a prenuptial agreement fairly early in a
relationship, instead of suddenly producing one on the eve of the wedding. Although
it’s a difficult topic to raise, talking about a prenuptial agreement can actually facilitate
discussions about attitudes toward the partnership in general and money in particular.
If you determine that a prenuptial agreement may be in your best interests, consult
an attorney.

Estate planning
Here’s another tough topic. No matter how young or old the couple, addressing estate
planning is vital. However, because there’s really never a “good” time to discuss issues
involving death and disability, couples tend to put off estate planning — sometimes
until it’s too late.

When two people decide to take responsibility for each other, it’s appropriate to talk
about how they want to provide for an orderly transfer of assets. Included in the
discussion should be considerations of the financial implications of life insurance and
what would happen if a wage earner or work-at-home spouse were lost.
It’s important to pay particular attention to beneficiary designations on life insurance
policies, IRAs and 401(k) plans. These designations will supersede instructions for
distributing assets included in a will or trust. Each provider — insurance company,
financial institution or plan administrator — needs to be contacted to update the
beneficiary designations on these valuable assets. This step is particularly important
in the case of a second marriage.

Armed with these tenets — and your ability to communicate freely about your finances — you
and your betrothed can begin to confidently build the financial security you desire.
And CONGRATULATIONS from I Tie The Knots!

Nebraska Marriage License by Mail – Douglas County

Since there is no waiting period in Nebraska, it is common for couples who do not reside in this area to come to the office on the same day or a day or two prior to the ceremony to obtain their license.

The county does recognize, however, that in rare circumstances a couple may need to obtain a license with one or both of them not able to appear in person to complete the application process. In that case, you need to:

  • Download the application and complete it.
  • Include a certified money order for $25.00 (or for $34.00 if you would like a certified copy of the license mailed to you after the marriage ceremony is performed). They do not accept checks. Please do not send cash.

  • The money order should be made out to the Douglas County Clerk/Comptroller. It is not necessary to include money for postage.
  • You must also include a clear, readable copy of your identification when you mail back the completed application.
  • Mail the application to:
    Douglas County Clerk/Comptroller
    1819 Farnam St., Room H08
    Omaha, NE 68183

The license will be processed and returned to the sender. You must specify where you want the license sent to. Included with your license will be:

  • keepsake copy of the license for your records.
  • Instructions on how the person performing the ceremony needs to complete the license and the keepsake.
  • Information on how to change your name with the Social Security Administration and your driver’s license.

When you receive the license, it will be necessary for the applicants to sign the actual marriage license in the presence of a notary public which we can provide for you, and swear that the information on the application is the truth to the best of their knowledge. The license must be signed and dated by the applicants before the ceremony is performed.

 

Please note: Processing the license by mail takes an extended period of time. Be sure to start the process early to make sure you are able to get it all done in time for your wedding ceremony.

Spice of Life Ceremony

Blessing of the Spices

Couples who enjoy cooking together or enjoy flavorful spices might consider this unique wedding ceremony tradition of blending spices to demonstrate a healthy and well-balanced marriage. The tradition gets its roots from the Middle East. Several bowls or pouring vessels are placed before the bride and groom, each containing a special spice. You then take turns scooping or pouring a bit of each into a small pouch or central vessel, creating your own spice blend that you can keep and use to season your future meals together. If placed in a vessel you can layer the bottom with salt and the top. Then seal it with wax.

Spice of Life Ceremony

Credit to Meaduva

Salt – Poured by the Officiant
Rosemary or Pepper for prosperity
Brown sugar for a sweet life
Garlic for wisdom and long life
Onion for remembrance, love & fidelity
Savory for balance in their lives
Nutmeg for romance
Paprika for passion
Cayenne for fiery passion
Parsley for an extra spark of flavor
 

Your ceremony wording can fall along these lines:

Making a commitment to each other through marriage means you combine your gifts and together, you make a greater difference in the world than you would as individuals. Just as spices complete a recipe, you complete each other. You have chosen a few spices to layer in this bowl / glass vessel one at a time, signifying your own personalities and talents. In this way, you symbolically combine who you are forever.
Just as the spices become intermingled and will never be the same again, so do your lives as you join in marriage. You will begin and end by pouring in salt, for it is pure and essential. Go ahead and pour the first layer of salt . . . (Couple pours first layer of salt together . . .)
As you pour the following spices, which you will layer between the salt, your Officiant will name each and its symbolism: 

Now finish with pouring the final layer of salt. What a beautiful work of art you have created! Please keep this in your home as a reminder of this special day. Let these spices symbolize the blessings of your joining and how you have combined the essences of who you are, forever.”

 

Wedding Day Timeline

Every Bride should consider putting together a timeline for your wedding day. Then you’ll want to share it with your venue coordinator, your wedding party, your family and your wedding officiant. Be sure everyone knows what time they are expected to participate.

Here is a sample to work from. This is your day….make it yours.

Wedding Timeline

7:30am: Rise & Shine! Today is the day.
8:30am: Hair & Make up
12:30pm: Drive to Venue & Meet with coordinator
1:00pm: Set up Bridal Room
1:45pm: All members of the wedding party to arrive for photos
2:00pm: Photographer: Bride & Groom First Look
2:45pm: Family Pictures
4:00pm: Stop Pictures
4:30pm: Wedding Ceremony
5:00pm: Ceremony Ends
5:00pm: Reception Start – Bar Opens
6:00pm: DJ Announces entrance of entire wedding party
6:15pm: Cake Cutting
6:30pm: Dinner Service
7:15pm: Toast Start (best man and maid of honor)
7:50pm: First Dance
7:55pm: Father / Daughter Dance
8:00pm: Mother / Son Dance
8:05pm: Bride with father in law & Groom with mother in law
8:10pm: Wedding Party Dance
8:15pm: Open Dance
9:00pm: Bouquet and Garter Toss
9:50pm: Dollar Dance?
11:30pm: Last Call

A timeline helps your ceremony start on time.

A timeline helps your ceremony start on time.

Nebraska Marriage License

Before you get married in the state of Nebraska you will need to apply for a marriage license. You must be at least 19 years of age or if you are 17 or 18 years of age you may apply with the consent of a parent or legal guardian. There is no waiting period in Nebraska. Your license will be issued the same day. You can contact a wedding officiant and elope the same day!

If you are getting married in another state a Nebraska license won’t work. You will need to obtain that state’s license. Your license is good in any county.

The Douglas County Clerk’s office is open Monday through Friday, 8 a.m. – 5 p.m. They are located downtown at 1819 Farnam room H08, at the Harney Street level, in the Omaha-Douglas Civic Center. They can be contact at 402-444-6080

Nebraska marriage licenses are public record. Your name and age will be published in the Omaha World-Herald and in the Daily Record. The newspapers come in daily to pick up the list of names of the applicants from the day before. Usually your name will be printed within a couple of days after the day that you applied.

If you do not want you name in the paper, you will need to discuss that with the Omaha World Herald at 402-444-1000 or the Daily Record at 402-345-1303.

Due to new provisions of the Judicial Code of Conduct, effective January 1, 2011, active judges cannot perform marriage ceremonies between the hours of 8:00 a.m. and 4:30 p.m., You can contact a professional wedding officiant, such as I Tie The Knots, who can perform a ceremony anytime for you.

You will need two witnesses when you get married. The witnesses do not need to be present when you get the license, but they will need to be present at the marriage ceremony. A Wedding Officiant can provide witnesses for you, if needed.

Douglas County Clerk Information & Douglas County Marriage License Application

A Special Day!

A Special Day!

What is the difference between a Wedding Officiant, a Minister, and a Justice of the Peace?

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Officiant, minister, justice of the peace? What’s the difference?

When you’re trying to plan a wedding, you find the suddenly you have to be an expert on everything! It’s confusing to try to understand the difference between different types of wedding officials, but we are here to explain the difference.

A minister can officiate a wedding, but most ministers will be restricted in what they can or will officiate, due to their religious affiliation with the church they belong to. This is a great choice for individuals who already belong to a church that they regularly attend, if they want a traditional church ceremony.

A justice of the peace is a special type of court officer that can perform civil marriages. These are a simple option for individuals who want nothing more than a marriage certificate, but they are limited in terms of schedule and location, and are strictly no-frills marriage ceremonies.

Lastly, a wedding officiant is anyone who can legally officiate a marriage ceremony. In wider use, a wedding officiant often refers specifically to a non-denominational and sometimes non-religious official who carries no affiliation with a church. Couples who don’t regularly attend a religious service or church often find this sort of wedding officiant ideal because of the flexibility this approach affords. When you use a non-denominational wedding officiant, you aren’t bound by the limits of any specific religious tradition or dogma. Couples who have differing religious backgrounds also tend to prefer a wedding officiant like this, because multi-religious ceremonies can be custom-made, honoring the religious tradition and beliefs of both families. At I Tie the Knots, we have even written ceremonies that include Catholic liturgy and Hindu ceremonies in Sanskrit! For couples that prefer a non-religious ceremony, wedding officiants also afford this flexibility, without the shortness and rigidness of the courthouse ceremony. Most wedding officiants, such as ourselves, also offer quick elopement ceremonies, which is a more flexible option as compared to the justice of the peace ceremonies. Officiants offer these quick ceremonies during nights and weekend hours, where a justice of the peace would often have a narrow time availability.

Overall, a minister, justice of the peace, and a non-denominational wedding officiant are all perfectly capable of running your wedding ceremony. If you want the ultimate customization and flexibility in schedule and ceremony your best bet is a non-affiliated wedding officiant such as I Tie the Knots.

Welcome to the Wedding Blog of I Tie The Knots Professional Wedding Officiation.

itietheknots02As this is our first post to the blog we’d like to introduce our unique company to you.

We are a team of Professional Wedding Officiants whose mission is to create, customize & perform the wedding ceremony of your dreams. We work with you to create, customize and perform a ceremony in line with your beliefs. Our business model was designed to meet the needs of today’s Bride & Groom.

We have a variety of officiants at your service. Male, Female, & Spanish Speaking.

Thank you for taking the time to learn about us and…see you at the Altar!